Just a little something to share :)

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard.

His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital. He died.The mother was stunned. She was terrified how she was going to face her husband.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.The husband just said

"I am with you Darling".

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened. No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world.

"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."
Take off all your envies, jealousy, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

MORAL OF THE STORY
Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out some warmth in human relationship.

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How many times we've come across a story or article that tells you, a small gesture like a smile or 'thank you's and 'sorry's would make a lot of difference?

But how many times we've overlooked and disregarded all that small gestures or short speech, because
1. we think he/she would have understood anyway, or
2. it wouldn't really matter, or
3. it feels weird?

Just because it's such a small thing, we tend to overlook.

Not knowing it costs a whole damn difference.

Here's my own story.

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About a year ago, i remember waking up from my nap at about 8pm, and when i got out of the room, my bro was screaming to me -__- Something was wrong with the router and i couldn't go online that afternoon after coming back from college; He was being over impulsive over not being able to go online. Apparently, he had been trying to go online for some while now. Hence, the screamy mood.

Sure. He demanded for answer.
"What did you do to the router?????"
with a really irritated look.

"I didn't do anything, i got back and it was already like that."

I was kinda cranky at that time. Who wants to get yelled at after just waking up from a nice slumber? So my voice was kinda raised. And he too, started raising his voice.. and you bet it, we argued. He was claiming all the crap about me last using the computer when i'd actually been using the laptop more recently. So yada yada.. in the end (almost every time in the end), i cried. Meh. Cry baby mah. Soo.. basically i stormed into the room and refused to have dinner. Even though i was quite hungry.

Mum came in to the room much much later and was like asking me to go have my dinner. She sat down on the bed next to me and was like
"Come la. Don't get so upset. Guys are always like that wan la.. very insensitive and impulsive.. So why make yourself upset when they don't care? Come, don't torture yourself.. come out and eat, ok? You're hungry."

Meh. Nicely said.
Dad's like that sometimes. Bro too. and him.

(what is effing wrong with wanting to hear someone say "it's okay to cry when you're sad", but instead i get a "get a hold of yourself la. you've been like that for how long already??" zzz.)

So anyway.. i went to eat. After that i decided to sleep early. Yeaaaa, like how to sleep early and especially after the nap -.-
Some while later, my bro came in to the room to get something. I don't know what.. not that i care. When he suddenly spoke in all that darkness, breaking the silence -  except the occasional sniffing that came from me.

"I'm sorry."

Shock.

"Please don't cry anymore, alright?"

Silence. Then i hear footsteps trailing out of the room, as the door closed.
I could tell he didn't sound at all comfortable saying those. I mean, i don't even feel right hearing him say those!! 18 years living with him and undeniably fought over too many things, never once any of us said sorry after a fight (but still somehow we'd manage to resolve in truce) and now i'm hearing it. It was as sincere as the meaning carries.. and it was all it needed for me to feel better, much much better. No doubt my mum was talking my bro out into treating me better while i was in the room but.. for him to really do so.. ..

And since then, we never quarrel again, or hardly. Since then, we often express 'thank you's to each other when we help one another.

That was how significant a 'sorry' was.

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I realised, many times we often deem something to be trivial or pointless, but it might mean otherwise to the other. The small gestures, short speeches. Why not express them when it does not bring harm? And just maybe, you'll make someone's day.

Oh, and especially funny how we usually treat outsiders nicer and more polite than how we treat our own family members. Lol. Reminds me of someoneeee (i don't wanna mention the name la... xD) calling his sister's office to ask for her.

"Hello.. may i speak to XXX, please?"

...

"OI! we're outside already, come out now!"

Hahaha. Biasa ad ma right.. But habits, can be changed lol.
And as for me, i've been better but i know there's still a lot of room for improvement. Just, well, bless my mood swings :P

I've been advising this to a friend a lot lately so i thought i'd write it and remind myself xD! Seriously.. try noticing how you treat others - friends, family, strangers.

Never too late to make a difference =)

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Couldn't resist to put this up xD!